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Remember When

Alan Jackson had a huge hit song from 2003 called “Remember When.”  He began by singing, “Remember when I was young and so were you and time stood still and love was all we knew.”  The song goes on to remember the ups and downs of his relationship with his wife.

For those who are currently struggling in their marriages, there is power in remembering.  Margaret Barber once said, “To look backward for a while is to refresh the eye, to restore it, and to render it more fit for its prime function of looking forward.”  Couples look back to see what brought them together.  Couples look back to see what brought them through the difficult times.  Couples look back to cherish the memories.  Couples look back to gain perspective.  Couples look back in hopes of creating a new future.

People should dust off that photo album.  People should break out those old home movies.  People should rewatch their wedding videos.  People should relisten to the love songs they used to listen to.  People should once again walk down memory lane.  Couples should do these things together.  Couples should relive those memories anew.

Prepare for Marriage, Not Just a Wedding

In America, people spend a lot of time and money getting ready for weddings. However, couples spend much less time, getting ready for marriage. Preparing for marriage can provide you with the foundation to build and grow a healthy marriage.

An engaged couple has to make a lot of decisions about their life as a married couple. Where will they live? How will they handle finances? Do they want to have children? Premarital preparation can help them learn how to discuss these issues in more positive and effective ways. In fact, according to a 2006 article in the Journal of Family Psychology, couples who participated in premarital education experienced higher levels of marital satisfaction and commitment and lower levels of conflict.  There is no recipe to guarantee a strong marriage but learning about the right ingredients can help couples begin their life as husband and wife with mutual respect and confidence in their future.

There is lots of material out there that suggests different questions couples should ask each other before marriage. Questions are good. Questions let people get to know one another better. Questions also get couples talking and communicating. Good communication is essential for a healthy marriage. Marriage education can teach people better communication skills and much more. Marriage education isn’t just for people who are already married. Learning skills early can help enhance marriage during the great times and help sustain marriage during the hard times. People say, “A good marriage takes lots of hard work.” Learning solid skills early through premarital education can make it a whole lot easier.